Comments on: Can I Give You Some Feedback? http://www.knowhr.com/blog/2007/07/31/can-i-give-you-some-feedback-2/ Know More HR. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:06:41 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Frank Roche http://www.knowhr.com/blog/2007/07/31/can-i-give-you-some-feedback-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2334 Frank Roche Thu, 02 Aug 2007 16:33:41 +0000 http://www.knowhr.com/blog/2007/07/31/can-i-give-you-some-feedback-2/#comment-2334 Thanks, Wally. What you say it right on the money: Say what you want to say. Whenever someone tries that sin license with me -- can I give you some feedback? -- I'm already on the defensive. It just doesn't work. Your approach is the best approach: Tell them the facts and be logical. Have a conversation. That's what adults do...and it works. Thanks, Wally. What you say it right on the money: Say what you want to say. Whenever someone tries that sin license with me — can I give you some feedback? — I’m already on the defensive. It just doesn’t work. Your approach is the best approach: Tell them the facts and be logical. Have a conversation. That’s what adults do…and it works.

]]> By: Wally Bock http://www.knowhr.com/blog/2007/07/31/can-i-give-you-some-feedback-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2332 Wally Bock Thu, 02 Aug 2007 15:22:35 +0000 http://www.knowhr.com/blog/2007/07/31/can-i-give-you-some-feedback-2/#comment-2332 Great post, Frank. You hit exactly on why, when I train, I suggest that supervisors not use the term "feedback at all." Instead, launch right into what you want to talk about. Here is what you did, in non-judgemental behavior or performance language. Here is why we need to talk about it, in logical and emotional language if possible. After you've laid it out, stop and wait for the person you're talking with to respond. Wait no matter how long it takes. What you will get will determine what you talk about next and can be the start of a very good conversation. Great post, Frank. You hit exactly on why, when I train, I suggest that supervisors not use the term “feedback at all.” Instead, launch right into what you want to talk about.

Here is what you did, in non-judgemental behavior or performance language.

Here is why we need to talk about it, in logical and emotional language if possible.

After you’ve laid it out, stop and wait for the person you’re talking with to respond. Wait no matter how long it takes. What you will get will determine what you talk about next and can be the start of a very good conversation.

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